Picture this: You're in your weekly staff meeting when someone shares an incredible God moment. Before you know it, testimonies are being traded like poker chips, and everyone's measuring their spiritual scorecard.
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If this scenario feels uncomfortably familiar, you're not alone. Many church staffs unknowingly fall into what I call "the spiritual comparison game"—a subtle but toxic dynamic that can destroy team culture from the inside out.
It starts innocently enough. Staff members begin sharing about their ministry experiences, but gradually it shifts into something else entirely. People start ranking their spiritual experiences, comparing calling stories, and measuring their ministry fruit—but not in a healthy way.
Here's how the game typically plays out:
Before long, team members are competing over who's more surrendered, who sacrifices more, and who trusts God harder. The message becomes less about "God's doing something amazing" and more about "God's doing something better in me than in you."
"There are different kinds of gifts, but the same Spirit distributes them. There are different kinds of service, but the same Lord. There are different kinds of working, but in all of them and in everyone it is the same God at work." — 1 Corinthians 12:4-6
Let me be clear: the staff members who engage in spiritual competition aren't bad people. They're good people who love Jesus. But they've unconsciously started putting everything onto a spiritual scorecard.
Some church cultures are more prone to this than others, but we've all seen it happen. The underlying issue often stems from insecurity, unclear expectations, or a lack of understanding about how God uniquely calls and gifts each person for ministry.
If you recognize this pattern on your team, here are four practical steps to address it:
The first step is simply calling out the behavior when it happens. A gentle "Hey, we're starting to compare again" can be incredibly effective. Don't let these moments slide by unaddressed—they'll only compound over time.
As a leader, model authenticity by sharing where you're actually wrestling with God, not just your highlight reel. When you're vulnerable about your real struggles and growth areas, you give permission for others to do the same.
Remember this phrase: "Your burden is not my passion." God calls people to be passionate about different things. The admin who shows up quietly every day is displaying faithfulness that's just as sacred as the pastor's breakthrough moment.
Don't try to rank these different expressions of faithfulness—celebrate them all equally.
Instead of asking for dramatic God stories, try questions like: "How is God meeting you in the ordinary this week?" This shifts the focus from spectacular experiences to everyday faithfulness.
When staff members compete spiritually, the damage extends far beyond awkward meetings. Here's what really happens:
"The moment your staff starts competing for God's approval, they stop collaborating for God's mission."
Your team doesn't need more spiritual superstars—they need more authentic teammates. Here's how to foster that kind of culture:
Practice public celebration: Intentionally highlight the unique strengths and wins of each team member. Make it specific and genuine.
Create comparison-free zones: Establish meeting guidelines that focus on collaborative problem-solving rather than individual performance metrics.
Address root issues: Often, comparison stems from systemic problems like unclear role expectations or unrealistic performance standards. Identify and address these underlying issues.
If you recognize the spiritual comparison game on your team, don't wait for it to resolve itself. Start by examining your own heart and leadership style. Are you inadvertently encouraging competition? Are you modeling authentic vulnerability?
This week, I challenge you to share one area where you're genuinely struggling spiritually with your team. Not where you're winning—where you're wrestling. Watch how it changes the room.
"Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else." — Galatians 6:4
Remember, God designed your team with different gifts, callings, and personalities for a reason. When you celebrate those differences instead of comparing them, you create space for authentic collaboration that advances God's mission—not individual spiritual résumés.
Have you experienced the spiritual comparison game on your team? I'd love to hear your story and how you've addressed it. Send me your thoughts at podcast@chemistrystaffing.com—I read every email and often feature insights in future episodes.