I once heard about a pastor who had led the same church for over 40 years. What struck me most wasn't his tenure—it was the sparkle that still lit up his eyes after four decades of ministry.
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When someone asked him the secret to his longevity and joy, his answer surprised everyone. He didn't mention strategy. He didn't quote leadership books or even scripture. Instead, he said something profound:
"I learned to listen to God before I listened to the crowd. And I made sure someone always knew how I was really doing."
That response reveals a crucial truth: joy is the fruit of alignment, not adrenaline. And in a ministry culture that often celebrates hustle over health, this distinction could save your leadership—and your church.
Think of your leadership as a vehicle. Your gifting is the exterior—it's what people see, the shiny parts that draw attention and admiration. But your integrity? That's the engine. It's what actually keeps you moving forward, mile after mile, year after year.
Here's the problem: you can drive really fast with a broken engine for a while. When that check engine light comes on, you might ignore it and keep pushing forward. But eventually, the damage catches up. The dashboard lights multiply, the knocking gets louder, and what could have been a simple repair becomes a complete breakdown.
I've spent considerable time researching leadership failures over the past 25-30 years for my book When the Church Falls. The pattern is remarkably consistent: incredibly gifted and talented leaders who looked great on the outside but had fatal flaws in their integrity engine.
Talent can take you far in ministry, but only integrity can help you finish well.
Every integrity engine that keeps leaders grounded consists of three essential components: rhythms, rules, and relationships. If you want to protect yourself from scandal, preserve your marriage and family, and safeguard the people under your spiritual authority, you must pay daily attention to these three areas.
Rhythms are your daily, weekly, and seasonal soul practices. They include:
Many leaders who have fallen from grace share a common trait: they couldn't shut their minds off. They couldn't take real vacations or genuine rest. Over time, their spiritual practices disappeared, leaving them running on talent alone.
Eugene Peterson, the beloved pastor and author, once said, "I want to be a pastor who prays." When I heard him speak years ago, I remember thinking he was remarkably unremarkable. He wasn't flashy or dynamic. But his rhythm was substantial and holy—and it sustained him through decades of faithful ministry.
"Watch your life and doctrine closely. Persevere in them, because if you do, you will save both yourself and your hearers." - 1 Timothy 4:16
You might think rules sound legalistic, but they're actually about wisdom. These guardrails prevent the gradual drift that leads to compromise:
These aren't about legalism—they're about keeping yourself pure and your integrity intact. They protect you from situations where compromise feels justified or inevitable.
You need more than supportive relationships—those people who cheer you on because they see growth and success. You need grounding relationships with people who:
These relationships require vulnerability and humility, but they're essential for staying grounded in reality and truth.
Without these three components working together, predictable failures occur:
Consider what happened at Hillsong: long hours, blurred boundaries, and a "no questions asked" culture. The eventual collapse wasn't shocking to those paying attention—it was inevitable. The warning signs were flashing for years.
Here's the bottom line: Your gift can grow a church, but only your integrity can help it survive.
This week, I challenge you to audit your integrity engine:
Remember that pastor with the sparkle in his eyes after 40 years? His secret wasn't complicated strategy or revolutionary methods. It was simple integrity—maintained through rhythms, protected by rules, and grounded in authentic relationships.
The same sustainable joy and effective ministry can be yours. But it requires intentional attention to your integrity engine, not just your external gifting.
"Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting." - Psalm 139:23-24
Your church, your family, and your own soul are depending on it.
This post is part of a series based on Todd Rhoades' book "When the Church Falls: What We Can Learn from Leadership Collapses and How to Prevent the Next One." Want to assess where your vulnerabilities might be? Take the free assessment at whenthechurchfalls.com/assessment.
What integrity engine component do you need to strengthen most? I'd love to hear your thoughts at podcast@chemistrystaffing.com.